The definition of yourself

The time you spend alone with yourself is the most precious time you have. This is your proving ground. It’s where you decide who you are, what values you uphold, and ultimately how you are seen in the eyes of yourself and others. When no one is around, what are you doing?

/phil

How to look on the inside

If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.

Joanne K. Rownling (Sirius Black, Harry Potter)

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It’s all about judgement

Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.

Charles Addams

Right, wrong, normal, strange, those concepts are not percieved universally. They are subjective and it is important to keep that in mind!

/phil

Bruce Lee Week #4: Do not divide

Take not thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than.

Be not for or against.

Bruce Lee

The matter of right or wrong is something very subjective. Yes, there are certain things not to be argued with, like the laws of physics. But in most cases, decisions require judgement.

The moment you decide that something is right or wrong, you make a judgement.It is right in your eyes. Based on what you know and believe in this world, you can decide. It is perfectly reasonable for other people to disagree. Maybe they have experienced other things and see the matter in a different light.

Right, wrong, good or bad, those values are no absolute factors. They are subjective and can change. They are influenced by a lot of factors and it is not only about agreeing or disagreeing with other people. Maybe your future-self disagrees with some of the things you believe in right now. Actually, that is pretty likely.

Therefore try not to judge too much. Respect and value the right to communicate one’s opinions and ideas. Listen a lot! Discuss your own ideas and the ideas of others. But be careful in your judgement and be even more careful when talking in absolutes.

/phil

Judgement

People will judge you according to your own convictions.

Dexter King

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About judgement

Don’t judge someone just because they sin differently than you.

Anonymous

Nobody’s perfect right? Why pick on others for drinking, gambling, cheating, sleeping in, eating fat, not being fit etc.? Everybody sins in his or her own way and accepting that fact and appreciating human beings the way they are makes living way more interesting and inspiring.

I challenge you to live one day without judging people in a serious and/or inappropriate way!

/phil

Make your own decisions!

People will judge you either way so go ahead and just do what feels right

Phil

Often when facing scaring or just big decisions you might wonder what close friends or even family might think of you.

I mean “important” decisions like wether to quit a job or not or if you want to leave the country or not. When it comes to career, family planning or serious stuff like that you will most certainly picture yourself in the possible situations and think about how people will look at you.

Don’t do that!

People will judge you no matter what you do. That goes for family, friends and enemies. Everybody does it and there is nothing wrong with it.

Just don’t let this judgement confuse your decisions. You know what is right for you and it will work out in the end so have the courage to make strong decisions that are in harmony with your own thoughts rather than forming a person other people might like.

Another important point is that there are not always right and wrong decisions. You’ll make so many decisions in your life that it will never be possible to relate anything (good or bad) to one single one.

So don’t be afraid, make choices, face the consequences, gain experience and be prepared that you might want to change your opinion in the end.

At least you will never wonder “What would have happened if I had just trusted myself” but you will be more certain because you have personal experience instead of recommendations!

Making own decisions based on own thoughts is always more likeable in the end. What is the worth of a person that likes you just because you make decisions in his/her favor? Right, you rather would not hang around with such a person.

/phil