Life starts at the end of your comfort zone

Always do what you are afraid to do.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Don’t get me wrong. You should not do bad or stupid stuff.

Sometimes you are afraid for a goddamn reason and you should always be rational about doing scaring stuff.

But in many cases you are afraid although you exactly know that what you are about to do is the right thing.

In this cases: Have courage, pull through! You can do it!

/phil

About courage and fear

Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.

Ambrose Redmoon

Fear is natural and a good thing. Everybody has fear and everybody has a lot of fear.

Not giving a fuck – lunch-style


Fear is your mind telling you to be cautious wich is great. But you have to be able to cope with it. Know that fear is nothing dangerous or something to be afraid of. Use your fear, embrace it and still make rational decisions.

Fear is like a human being always yelling at you before you make something dangerous. You can run away scared or make the deliberate decision that this fear-guy has to shut up for a minute because you need to kick some ass!

/phil

Failure, like it, embrace it!

To live a creative life we must lose our fear of being wrong.

Joseph Chilton Pearce

Don’t fear being wrong. Actually being wrong means you tried and learned a way that is not working therefore you know more about the thing you tried than before. Failing is learning by doing and learning by doing is extremely efficient. Don’t be too scared to learn!

/phil

Expand your comfort zone

We must travel in the direction of our fear.

John Berryman

This can’t be stressed enough, you always have to expand your comfort zone. Don’t think about it, just go for it. Embrace your fear and get to know it, there will be no bigger enemy in your life.

/phil

ACT, for God’s sake!

All courses of action are risky, so prudence is not in avoiding danger (it’s impossible), but calculating risk and acting decisively. Make mistakes of ambition and not mistakes of sloth. Developt the strenght to do bold things, not the strength to suffer.

Niccolo Michiavelli

Making no mistakes is such a stupid goal I can’t find words to express it.

You want to make mistakes, you want to learn, to grow!

Have the confidence to do so and you will enjoy the ride.

/phil

How to build up self esteem

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Ever found yourself lacking self-esteem or having trouble doing certain tasks that you felt you should be able to do?

I have a cure for that. Challenge yourself! Chose any given task that is a personal challenge, may it be going to the club alone, talking to strangers, building something, jumping out of a plane, whatever it is that you are scared of.

Take this task/challenge and go for it! Embrace your fear, embrace your uncomfortable feeling! You will push through, you will suceed and finally you will feel great, comfortable, full of self-esteem and courage.

Every once in a while you have to achieve tasks, you have to prove to yourself: I can do it! If your job or your hobbies don’t give you this good feeling of having achieved something than you have to add it to your life in other ways.

This is for example why video games or games in general are so popular. Achieving stuff, no matter how small, lets us grow as persons. We show ourselves and others: I still got it, I can learn to do something that I was not able to do before, I am awesome!

I dare you. I double-dare you! Go out and prove to yourself that you are in fact awesome!

/phil

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.

Have no fear

The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make a mistake.

Elbert Hubbard

Constantly fearing to make a mistake will eventually push you into making the biggest mistake of all which is not doing anything. By doing nothing you become nothing and there’s nothing wrong about failing.

You are human, you are not supposed to know anything! Life is about learning and learning means being overwhelmed and then working your way through.

Be not afraid for life consists of mistakes! Go out there and enjoy them. Like I always say: Fail, try again, fail better!

/phil

Go for it!

The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.

Sven Goran Eriksson

This cannot be stressed enough!

Just go for it!

Think like this: What would you do if you could not possibly fail? Have something in mind? Okay, then go do it!

People always fail, no one will judge your failures. But people will judge you not trying!

/phil

A bit of Sunday Courage

Courage is knowing what not to fear.

Plato

Courage is not absence of fear nor is it liking fear. It is to know your fears and to be able to live with them.

Know what you fear and know what certain things you just should not fear, no matter how you feel. You can do that, I’m sure!

/phil

Let’s talk about fear

Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.

Ambrose Redmoon

You know the drill. EVERYONE has fears. Everyone is scared and everyone is limited in his own way.

That is why you have to learn how to work with your fear instead of trying to get rid of it. You will always experience fear, no matter what. Important is that you know this: Fear is just your brain telling you to be cautious. When you approach new areas of life, when you tackle different situations, it is new to you, you have to get used to it.

Use your fear as a motivator, as a stimulator. Embrace it and be happy about it, because it makes you human and it shows you that what you are doing at that moment is real!

Don’t ever whish for a life without fear for that would probably be the most boring life ever. Life is what happens OUT of your damn comfort zone so get your head out of your ass, go out there and have some goddamn fun!

Enjoy the weekend,

/phil