Tag Archives: Decisions

About right and wrong

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I no longer try to be right;

I choose to be happy.

Ric Elias

This right and wrong thing bothers me. Is there really an objective right and wrong?

Well maybe for real logic like math there is something like right and wrong. But there is not right and wrong for basically anything else because everything is subjective and everything will be different in different people’s perspectives.

Being right does not serve you well as long as it does not make you happy does it? Being in tune with your own thoughts, having a congruent reality, that is what counts. Everything else are opinions, everything else is worldy stuff that distracts you from your inner, calm happiness.

Being happy is not a question of being right, it is not a question of arguments or logic. It is a natural state, just like confidence, that you live in since your birth. Do not let rationalisation take this natural state from you.

You are not happy because you succeed in the society, you are happy because you are meant to be. You could loose your job, your wife, your car and your house today and still find inner peace and happiness.

Next time when you find yourself arguing with someone about anything, no matter how important or unimportant it may seem, stop and ask yourself: What am I doing here? Is this helping me or the other person in living happy lives?

Cut the useless worldly struggles of proving yourself and instead chose to be happy just for the sake of happiness.

/phil

Chose growth!

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Imagine the following situation:

You sit at home in November, it’s warm and cozy. You had planned to go for a run and take a refreshing shower afterwards, but that was hours ago and right now with the weather being all stormy and rainy all you want to do is sit back in your chair and enjoy a hot beverage. Well guess what? You get your ass up right now and go out there!

Life is an ongoing process of choosing between safety (out of fear and need for defense) and risk (for the sake of progress and growth). Make the growth choice a dozen times a day.

Abraham Harold Maslow

Yesterday you said tommorow and you know I’m right about this! Stop lying to yourself you lazy piece, pick yourself up and throw yourself out there.

I do not care wether it is your sports, a socially akward situation or studying you avoid, you stop that cowardly behaviour right now! Go out there and thank me later!

/phil

Focus!

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Person who chases two rabbits catches neither.

Confucius

Sometimes you have to get your priorities straight!

While multitasking is a good thing in general it is not a general cure for problems. Some tasks just require massive action that you just can not bring up while fulfilling other tasks. Therefore sometimes if you really want something you have to make sacrifices and set your priorities.

It is worth it.

/phil

Make your own decisions!

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People will judge you either way so go ahead and just do what feels right

Phil

Often when facing scaring or just big decisions you might wonder what close friends or even family might think of you.

I mean “important” decisions like wether to quit a job or not or if you want to leave the country or not. When it comes to career, family planning or serious stuff like that you will most certainly picture yourself in the possible situations and think about how people will look at you.

Don’t do that!

People will judge you no matter what you do. That goes for family, friends and enemies. Everybody does it and there is nothing wrong with it.

Just don’t let this judgement confuse your decisions. You know what is right for you and it will work out in the end so have the courage to make strong decisions that are in harmony with your own thoughts rather than forming a person other people might like.

Another important point is that there are not always right and wrong decisions. You’ll make so many decisions in your life that it will never be possible to relate anything (good or bad) to one single one.

So don’t be afraid, make choices, face the consequences, gain experience and be prepared that you might want to change your opinion in the end.

At least you will never wonder “What would have happened if I had just trusted myself” but you will be more certain because you have personal experience instead of recommendations!

Making own decisions based on own thoughts is always more likeable in the end. What is the worth of a person that likes you just because you make decisions in his/her favor? Right, you rather would not hang around with such a person.

/phil