Self-awareness

What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.

Abraham Maslow

It’s all about judgement

Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.

Charles Addams

Right, wrong, normal, strange, those concepts are not percieved universally. They are subjective and it is important to keep that in mind!

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Enhanced vision

It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.

Henry David Thoreau

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Live Happiness

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.

Dalai Lama

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Find new paths!

The one who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The one who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been before.

Albert Einstein

Explore, go your own ways, trust your gut and have courage!

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Bruce Lee Week #7: On reaching goals

I consider this one to be mainly a fitness/sports motivation, but you can apply it to many other things also:

Long term consistency beats short term intensity.

Bruce Lee

This is a simple, yet important concept. Doing 10 minutes of pushups or situps every day for 30 days is much better than doing half an hour every sunday for a month. Especially when it comes to training, wether muscle or brain training, it is about consitency and repition.

Progress takes time and the longer you train something, the more profound your knowledge will be in that field. This is why you can learn a language in a year but you won’t be able to master it in that time for example. And this is why discipline is so very important.

We are all used to little boosts of motivation every now and then. Suddenly you want to get fit, you get up early, hit the gym, eath healthy, you change your whole routine. This won’t last long, I can promise it. Instead, make small changes and focus on consistency. Start small, but don’t slack off. You will improve greatly, just be patient!

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Bruce Lee Week #6: Create your world

To hell with circumstances, I create opportunities.

Bruce Lee

There are a lot of things that can not be controlled. Life will put you in situations that you do not like at all. But although you can not control those situations, you can control your reactions to them.

How you react to situations and given circumstances defines what you can make out of them. You can turn a bad situation into a good opportunity. Having a flat tire? Great, you will learn how to change a tire! Your usual bus route is cancelled due to whatever reason? Awesome, time to learn a new route.

Okay, those examples are pretty mundane, but you get the point. It is about you feel and react towards what life throws at you that makes you happy or not. It is very important to realise that there is a lot out of your control and to just let it go. That’s just how it is, so don’t worry and make the best out of it.

Also, don’t wait for right moments all the time. Often, there is no right time. The right time is an imaginary moment you created in order to prolong decisions and bold actions. Create the right moment by acting!

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Bruce Lee Week #5: About validation and dependency

I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.

Bruce Lee

See, in life we always seek validation. That is one reason why we love to play games. They give us a sense of validation and achievement in a micro-cosmos. It is easier and faster to achieve goals in games than it is in real life.

Becoming rich in monopoly takes some hours and feels great, while getting rich in real life takes years or decades and who knows how it feels? Leveling up your character in an MMO and equipping him well to make him mighty is an easy and well-guided and awarded task, while getting ripped and trained in real life is a long-term goal with lots of sweat and tears involved.

But it is important not to depend on the validation of others in the process. You should not train, work or do anything in order to just impress someone. If there is nothing in it for you, what’s the point in doing it? Your actions should be aligned with your beliefs and your dreams. Your ideals define who you could be, but only your actions define who you are. Act accordingly.

Thoughts shape actions, action shape habits and habits shape character. Watch your thoughts and be careful not to be too eager to please others. Think about what you want out of life and what you expect from yourself.

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Bruce Lee Week #4: Do not divide

Take not thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than.

Be not for or against.

Bruce Lee

The matter of right or wrong is something very subjective. Yes, there are certain things not to be argued with, like the laws of physics. But in most cases, decisions require judgement.

The moment you decide that something is right or wrong, you make a judgement.It is right in your eyes. Based on what you know and believe in this world, you can decide. It is perfectly reasonable for other people to disagree. Maybe they have experienced other things and see the matter in a different light.

Right, wrong, good or bad, those values are no absolute factors. They are subjective and can change. They are influenced by a lot of factors and it is not only about agreeing or disagreeing with other people. Maybe your future-self disagrees with some of the things you believe in right now. Actually, that is pretty likely.

Therefore try not to judge too much. Respect and value the right to communicate one’s opinions and ideas. Listen a lot! Discuss your own ideas and the ideas of others. But be careful in your judgement and be even more careful when talking in absolutes.

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Bruce Lee Week #3: About Limits

Okay, today I will cover the topic of limits. Enjoy this little story of Bruce and his close friend John Little (Taken from the great book From The Art Of Expressing The Human Body):

Bruce had me up to three miles a day, really at a good pace. We’d run the three miles in twenty-one or twenty-two minutes. Just under eight minutes a mile

[Note: when running on his own in 1968, Lee would get his time down to six-and-a half minutes per mile].

So this morning he said to me “We’re going to go five.”

I said, “Bruce, I can’t go five. I’m a helluva lot older than you are, and I can’t do five.”

He said, “When we get to three, we’ll shift gears and it’s only two more and you’ll do it.”

I said “Okay, hell, I’ll go for it.”

So we get to three, we go into the fourth mile and I’m okay for three or four minutes, and then I really begin to give out. I’m tired, my heart’s pounding, I can’t go any more and so I say to him, “Bruce if I run any more,” –and we’re still running-”if I run any more I’m liable to have a heart attack and die.”

He said, “Then die.” It made me so mad that I went the full five miles. Afterward I went to the shower and then I wanted to talk to him about it.

I said, you know, “Why did you say that?”

He said, “Because you might as well be dead. Seriously, if you always put limits on what you can do, physical or anything else, it’ll spread over into the rest of your life. It’ll spread into your work, into your morality, into your entire being. There are no limits. There are plateaus, but you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. If it kills you, it kills you. A man must constantly exceed his level.

Yes, this is extreme. And yes, this is only one little example of his views on limits and personal growth.

But it is such a strong motion. Bruce Lee did not accept failure or limits. He did not accept the fact that somebody put a limit on something. He knew that limits are a mental concept and relative. And he knew from experience that he and every other person was quite able to outperform expectations.

Bruce realised that often the reason for our failures is that we just give up. We put a mental limit on our potential and just let it go. We may search for excuses, which is very easy, and just defend why we can’t do something instead of just doing it.

Well, I can only say: Don’t let the people who say it can’t be done interrupt the ones that are doing it.

I challenge you to hunt for your own little excuses! Next time you put a limit on yourself, think twice if it really is a limit or if it is just an excuse! Find those excuses and kill them! In most cases, they will resist at the beginning, but you will beat them eventually, at the latest when you’ve accomplished something which they excused you from.

Happy hunting,

/phil