You get the best out of others when you give the best of yourself.

Harvey S. Firestone

This concept is heard often but is rarely seen in action.

I want to elaborate a bit: Some people depend on others to make them happy. They even complain when others “don’t do certain things for them”. They take it for granted that people are there for them.

What it really works like is the following: As long as you are making the best out of yourself, as long as you try to be the best you can be, others appreciate your value. They genuinely like you and therfore support you. And you will do the same to them because they try to do the right, the best thing.

Caring and helping others is not outcome attached, you to it from your inside out. What happens after that (friendships, getting things back eventually) is just a result but should never be the reason for your behaviour.

/phil