Just remember, you can’t climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets.
Look for small victories and build on that. Each small victory, even if it is just getting up five minutes earlier, gives you confidence. You realize that these little victories make you feel great, and you keep going. You realize that being paralyzed by fear of failure is worse than failure.
This is very important. Being paralyzed by fear is one of the worst situations you can possibly find yourself in.
You have to overcome this paralyzed state and start taking risks. In order to life and not just exist, you have to create motion, you have to become active. Make plans, follow through!
Brace yourselves, this is a big one!
I’ve always figured out that there 24 hours a day. You sleep six hours and have 18 hours left. Now, I know there are some of you out there that say well, wait a minute, I sleep eight hours or nine hours. Well, then, just sleep faster, I would recommend.
I love this quote by Arnold which comes from a speech he gave at the University of Southern California on May 15th 2009. Not only is Arnold Schwarzenegger a perfect example of a successful person that does not sleep much, the speech also shows that even under great pressure (both for the mind and the body) you can do a shitload of amazing stuff. In fact: Without asking much from your body you won’t be able to sleep less. Here goes why:
Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.
The problem with this is that most people don’t talk about their struggles but rather about their success. Why would they talk about the struggles, it is not interesting after all and people are often measured by their success not by their problems.
So what you get from them is: ‘I did this, I did that, I achieved X, I rocked Y’ but you don’t get to hear ‘I failed this, I failed that, I slept in and did not do shit today’. Therefore you might easily think that other people just have their shit together and you don’t so you start questioning yourself.
This is especially a problem in times of social media like facebook. You see always the good side of people because they present themselves on their profiles. It is not an accurate picture of the people but rather a mere show-off portfolio where you see Photos from hoildays, from parties, you see cool stuff they did. But that is not what makes the persons who they are, it is just the tip of the iceberg.
Failure and the decision when to keep going is what makes the people who they are. But those things are so personal that most people don’t share them, especially over the internet.
So you should not judge the book by it’s cover meaning you should not be so quick to decide who looks strong (not in terms of physical strength) and who does not. And most important: Getting your sense of strength right will actually help you develop a more confident image of yourself. Once you’ve realised that it is not all about winning but more about the path towards the win you start seeing things more focused and are able to achieve more.
Don’t judge people by the result but by the work they’ve put in. I mean who is more successful in work, the small worker who had to put in a lot of effort in order to get his job and is proud about his work or the rich businessman who actually does a shitty job but inherited the company from his dad?
Always remember: Hard work, failure, getting up again and starting over, that is what makes people awesome! Winning is just the mere result of being a cool person. You can think about it like you think about a paperchase. Just because you arrived at the target destination first does not mean that you had the most fun at all!
So relax, do what you love and most importantly: Don’t fear to fail but instead fail often, fail greatly and learn from it. If it makes you feel better: Read about people like Michael Jordan, Thomas Edison or other successful people to realise how many thousand times they failed before they started winning.
You’re going to find naysayers in every turn that you make. Don’t listen. Just visualize your goal, know exactly where you want to go. Trust yourself. Get out there and work like hell. Break some of the rules and never ever be afraid of failure.